How to learn goodness?

After looking Godfather 3 movie, I've asked myself - how someone can learn goodness. How to learn (improve) Your goodness? There are millions on articles, publications, books on the theme - How to be something(successful, rich, famous, etc), but when I've tried googling, I could not found any satisfactory answer to this subject.
There are many answers which are related to God, spiritual world, etc. but I could not found any good source which is connected with the "normal" humans, such as these, existing, "improvement" books are connected. I can not believe that goodness is something which necessarily needs to be connected with  something very abstract.
I also do not trust into goodness as a gesture which should help my self-esteem. Yes, good gestures are improving mood. But I do not think about that - because that goodness, even it has some benefits for the person who receives that goodness, can be (but maybe not?) driven by selfish act of wanting to feel good.
I also do not speak about that someone is thinking that he is good, but never express that goodness. This also can be said about love - is love without expression love or not?
I do not think about goodness from social perspective.
I do not think about goodness as a rational decision - even it can be - and which can benefit the world.
I want that these goodness is from person, to be natural, physical, that can be felt, but not in artificial way.
Is goodness emotion?
When I could be able to choose one important thing for me in life, that certainly could be that I become emanation of goodness - whatever it would look like. I am imaging this "feature" recognized and manifested as some physical feature - eye color, or height - something that can be seen, and something which can be felt, and something which can help (transform) other people just from the energy this goodness ("feature"?) is radiating.
I would like that this subject is not so heavily mystified.

Maybe, but just maybe, this "feature" of goodness is something which is still in its initial, baby phase, so we (I?) will need to do what can be done in that phase, as much "physical" or artificial, it could looked like, and by practicing all before mentioned ways of artificial - or better say - partial, goodness expression, I can become Master of Goodness?

Why I would like to be that - since for me, it is only valid life goal - since only goodness as a state of person, and goodness as an expression towards other or world - is good. Good to feel, and good to get. It does not require any prize for its expression, since its existence is prize itself.

5 minute exercise for immediate blue mood (depression) relief

This is one simple exercise which helped me improving my mood almost instantly.

Just stop thinking.

In order to succeed in that - just start looking at something, for example, through window, and start looking at the tree. But just look at it, do not allow Your brain to start making words about tree, leafs, etc. Once when it starts, move Your attention to some other object - grass, and just look at it. Do not think about grass, leave You brain empty. Continue this process as much as You want. Just do not think. Do not look at anything which has words written on it, since Your brain will "automatically" start to read them. As much the observation object is abstract, that is better.

This is not a cure for blue mood (depression), which can have different causes, and which can need some deeper therapy, but this exercise is here just to help You overcome sudden decline of Your mood, to help you temporarily.

Please comment about You experiences.

Inherited personality

"We know from twin and family studies that our personality is to a large degree – probably around 40 per cent – inherited."

More on https://digest.bps.org.uk/2016/12/07/many-of-the-same-genes-that-influence-our-personality-also-affect-our-mental-health/

Pol Sezan i LinkedIn

Gledanje slika Pola Sezana mi mnogo više prija nego gledanje LinkedIn-a! Upitao sam se zašto to? Ne znam koji je, i da li postoji, univerzalan odgovor, ali mislim da mi se više dopadaju slike Pola Sezana, zato što one oslikavaju jedan autentični doživljaj još autentičnije prirode, dok LinkedIn predstavlja poruke hodajućih mrtvaca koji prenose socijalno prihvatljive i poruke za koje im je neko platio da prenesu, ili poruke koje pokušavaju mrtvome da daju život. Znači LinkedIn je groblje u odnosu na Pola Sezana...I ja imam nalog na LinkedIn-u. 

Skript

Skript je termin u Transakcionoj Analizi - TA. Necu sad pisati kako nastaje, koje su njegove karakteristike, vrste, pojavne manifestacije, posledice, igre itd. To su sve jako interesantne teme kojima se bavim u poslednje vreme - čitajući, razmišljajući i posmatrajući sebe, svoje postupke, emocije i razmišljanja kroz teoriju skripta.

Ono što hoću da napišem, a vezano za skript je sledeća opservacija\zaključak:"Ono što mislim da jeste je u stvari ono što mi se najviše dešavalo u životu, i to je ono što najviše vidim oko sebe u životu. A da bi dobili strouk(psihološku nagradu) i kao posledicu te nagrade učvrstili script, mi u životu pronalazimo najviše onih stvari za koje verujemo da su tačne. A to znači da slika koju imaš o sebi i svetu u stvari privlači najviše onih stvari koje se uklapaju u tu sliku, zato što stvari koje se ne uklapaju odbacujemo, pošto ih ne vidimo. Dakle, posledica je da mi tokom života samo učvršćujemo ono u šta verujemo.
Možemo da gledamo i od nazad - ako ne znamo u šta verujemo - možemo da vidimo šta je to što nam se dešava, kako percipiramo svet, ljude i sebe. Pa onda jedan korak u nazad, na osnovu te analize možemo da utvrdimo koja su nam verovanja. Pa onda korak napred - da pokušamo, ako nismo zadovoljni ni rezultatima (posledicama) verovanja a ni samim uverenjima, da radimo na promeni istih. To znači da moramo da uložimo svestan način da svet, druge i sebe primećujem na način na koji nisam navikao, tj. na van-scriptni način, a to nas dovodi do slobode i izbora. To nam omogućava da mislimo i radimo onako kako želimo a ne onako kako moramo. Problem u ovome je krenuti dobijati stroukove (psihološke nagrade) za ponašanje koje nije bilo stroukovano. To je proces izgradnje, koji ne ide lako i zahteva svesno ulaganje energije. Delovaće veštački, neke interne psihološke strukture će se buniti protiv toga, govoriće razne stvari(interni Kritikujući Roditelj ). Ali će nagrada stići iz interne strukture koja je zainteresovana za promenu - najčešće dete. I uvežbavanjem novih izbora, mi u stvari prestajemo da robujemo scriptu, tj. prestajemo da budemo roboti koji na impuls uvek odreaguju istom reakcijom."

Trust

I like this image.

It seems that Trust is more Character then Competence, but Trust requires competence.